Who owns the problem?

If you can get objective enough about a situation to figure out who owns the problem whether it is you or the other person then you have solved half of the problem. When there are differences that are causing problems between two people whether at work or at home first ask yourself who owns the problem. If it is the other person then first decide whether you want to ask the person to change it or if you want to figure out ways to work around the other persons problem. If it is your problem, then change the way that you look at it.

It is the other person's problem if you ask other people and they say that they have the same problem with that person, if the other person reacts out of the norm of everyone else,

It is your problem if people are telling you, if you find yourself acting out of the norm of other people, or if it is something that you have run into before with other people.