I have been asked this question twice in as number of days so I am going to answer it here. What do you do when someone, spouse or adult child is not sure about commitment to you or not sure about claiming you as a parent but you want to remain committed to that person?
Pretend you are a rock and the other person is also a rock. This rock moves, and rolls at whim while you stay in the same place year after year. Sometimes this rock comes close to you, sometimes it rolls in the other direction. Sometimes it stays away for days or weeks at a time before it comes back. Sometimes it just rolls around just outside your reach but always within sight. Your job as long as you are committed to this person is to stay in one place. Let the other person go and roll around as needed or desired but be there when the person comes back.
If you are having problems with your spouse or child and have more questions, feel free to contact me through my site at www.brighterdays.com.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Dating and self esteem
How many books have you read that say improve your self-esteem and you will catch a man; you can't get anyone to love you unless you love yourself? Let me let you in on a little secret. I married very late in life at the age of 36. In the meantime, I followed all the instructions in the books and worked on my self esteem ad naseum. All I ever got out of it was a good job because I was able to sell myself very well. At the same time, I watched all my low self-esteem friends get married to all these great guys that I passed up. What's wrong with this picture?!!!!
What I discovered was that I needed to remove the blocks that prevented me from finding my soul mate. When I did that then I met and married my husband. My block was my distant relationship with my father and my fear of men in general. When I made friends with my dad and a male coworker then I lost my fear and learned that men were not so different from women.
What is your block? Let me help you find that out. Contact me through my website at wwww.brighterdays4you.com
What I discovered was that I needed to remove the blocks that prevented me from finding my soul mate. When I did that then I met and married my husband. My block was my distant relationship with my father and my fear of men in general. When I made friends with my dad and a male coworker then I lost my fear and learned that men were not so different from women.
What is your block? Let me help you find that out. Contact me through my website at wwww.brighterdays4you.com
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