Information for families of sexual abuse

It looks like not all of my post on the 9th went through so I am reposting it here.

Wayne Duehn
Child Sexual Abuse: Dealing with the Traumatic Aftermath

To recover from trauma:
1 Have a support system
A) that believes that the trauma occurred
B) that the child can feel safe about telling the details of the trauma (as much as they want to or can say)
2. Education system
A) Can give cognitive framework for the "why me"questions
B) Why the victim was not protected by the family
C) To make sense out of a senseless act
D) To give the family knowledge and skills

Families where sexual abuse is likely to occur
1. Rigidly enmeshed
A) Gradual grooming process
B) High incidences of recanting stories
2. Chaotically disengaged
A) Systemic sex abuse
B) Multiple perps
C) More likely to love their mother because they have seen her abused also
D) Characteristics of these families
1) frequent moves
2) substance abuse
3) lots of unsupervised time
4) lots of people in and out - mostly lovers
5) mother is dependent personality disordered

Healing process
1. Give it a label such as incest or systemic abuse
2. Use genograms to help victim see that it was not her fault
3. Establish safety first in the home
a) have a monitoring system
b) set standards and policies
c) have rules that assure that the victim will not be abused - rules about sex
d) have touch contracts

For questions about the above information, please put them here or contact me at www.brighterdays4you.com.