an assertive technique

I call this technique the broken record technique. When records were broken they would repeat the same word over and over and over and over and over and over and over. This technique is beautiful because it gets the point that you want to make across and in a nice way. You do not need to get mad in order to get the point across.

This is how it works. Someone asks you to do something that is offensive for you. You say no but the person persists to the point where you have a difficult time continuing to say no. The person begins to whine and to say things like you are the only one that can help. This is how you get out of this one. With raising your voice, without getting mad, you continue to say no. I had a client that had a problem with chasing visitors out of his house. The would show up late at night and want to hang out with him. This technique helped him to feel good about telling them that he wanted to go to bed. He kept repeating that it was bedtime for him and he wanted to go to bed right now. He did not need to say no you can't come in or no I don't want you here or anything like that. He merely repeated that he wanted to go to bed. He was excited about how well this worked for him without him needing to get mad and chase the person away.